BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

How honest should you be in a relationship? Is honesty always the best policy, or can telling the truth sometimes create conflict, hurt or even threaten the relationship? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we explore whether you are showing up as the same person in every area of your life, or whether old patterns, fear of rejection and the need for safety have taught you to become someone different depending on who you're with.
Should you tell your partner everything about your past? How much should you share about who you were, the things you're ashamed of, and the experiences that shaped you? And when does being honest create deeper trust and connection, versus when do you need to process something for yourself before bringing it into the relationship?
01:45 – Honesty vs. Safety: Should You Always Tell the Truth?
04:25– Should Parents Tell Their Children the Truth?
06:25 – Should Your Children Know About Your Past?
10:50 – How Childhood Trauma Affects Honesty in Relationships
13:25 – How to Build Safety and Trust in a Relationship
20:35 – Becoming Your Authentic Self Can Feel Scary
24:50 – Should You Tell Your Partner Everything About Your Past?
29:25 – Can Telling the Truth Actually Hurt Your Relationship?
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– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
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Many people struggle with anxiety, emotional numbness, chronic stress, people-pleasing, or self-sabotage without realizing the root cause may be repressed emotions carried since childhood. Using Dr. David Hawkins' Map of Consciousness as a guide, we unpack why some emotional states keep us feeling stuck while others create greater peace, creativity, resilience, and emotional freedom.
You'll learn how childhood trauma, repressed emotions, and core emotional wounds influence your nervous system, mental health, relationships, and even chronic stress. We also share practical ways to begin releasing stored emotions through conscious awareness so you can stop living from old survival patterns and move toward lasting emotional healing.
02:30 – Why Shame and Guilt Are the Most Destructive Emotions
05:25 – How Childhood Trauma Creates Lifelong Shame
08:00 – How to Release Shame and Repressed Emotions
11:15 – Understanding Apathy vs Neutrality
16:00 – Why Anger and Grief Are Necessary for Healing
20:00 – Anxiety, Fear & Childhood Trauma: What's Really Happening?
24:30 – Can Repressed Emotions Cause Physical and Mental Illness?
29:05 – How Your Emotional State Affects Parenting & Relationships
👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources: 
Dr. David Hawkins' Map of Consciousness: https://www.sgibinc.com/wp-content/smush-webp/2024/06/SGBI-Web-768x728.jpg.webp
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
– 
📱 Connect with Lavinia: 
https://www.laviniabrown.com 
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew: 
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

Are you raising an entitled child, or are deeper emotional wounds being triggered beneath the surface? In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew explore how childhood trauma shapes parenting and why many of our strongest reactions to our children's behavior have less to do with them and more to do with our own unresolved experiences.
If you've ever felt triggered by your child's behavior, struggled with emotional regulation as a parent, or wondered how to break unhealthy family patterns, this conversation offers a compassionate and practical perspective on raising emotionally healthy children while healing yourself in the process.
01:15 – Authoritarian vs Permissive Parenting
02:10 – What Emotional Safety Really Means for Children
03:30 – Why Parents Struggle to Accept Certain Behaviors
08:20 – Childhood Trauma, Emotional Baggage & Parenting
20:00 – Why Criticism Damages Self-Worth
22:00 – Authentic Behavior vs "Bad" Behavior
26:00 – Attuned Leadership: A New Parenting Model
👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
– 
📱 Connect with Lavinia: 
https://www.laviniabrown.com 
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew: 
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

Many men don’t seek therapy or emotional support until their relationship is breaking down, their stress becomes unbearable, or they reach a personal crisis point. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered Podcast, Lavinia and Andrew explore why men avoid therapy, suppress emotions, and struggle to ask for help, the role women often take in relationships when they become emotionally aware first, and how this impacts relationships, marriage, parenting, mental health, and emotional connection.

01:10 – Why Men Wait Until Crisis to Ask for Help
06:00 – Childhood Trauma & Emotional Repression in Men
09:30 – Men Look for External Solutions Instead of Healing
11:50 – Traditional Therapy Doesn’t Work for Many Men
14:47 – How Men & Women Process Emotions Differently
19:00 – Conflict in Relationships Can Trigger Healing
22:00 – How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Boys
24:00 – Men Need Better Emotional Tools

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast

– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
– 
📱 Connect with Lavinia: 
https://www.laviniabrown.com 
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew: 
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

Why do some leaders seem reactive instead of regulated?
Why does the news trigger anxiety?
Why does the world feel so overwhelming right now?

In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we dive deep into why so much in the world feels chaotic, corrupted, and out of control, and what that has to do with unhealed childhood wounds.

We explain the concept of conditional versus unconditional love, and how lacking true emotional safety in childhood can lead to self-worth being tied to achievement, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and external validation. You’ll also walk away with practical tools to manage fear, build safety in your body and relationships, and regulate your nervous system—so you don’t carry external chaos into your home and inner world. 

This conversation is especially relevant if you’re struggling with anxiety, powerlessness, or just want to understand the emotional climate of our times.

00:30 – Are Leaders Acting from Childhood Trauma?
04:00 – Conditional vs Unconditional Love Explained
09:50 – How Lack of Self-Love Impacts Empathy: Trauma Patterns
12:30 – Reacting vs Responding (Emotional Regulation)
16:00 – Why the News Triggers Anxiety
20:15 – How to Heal Your Inner Child to Stay Regulated

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
– 
📱 Connect with Lavinia: 
https://www.laviniabrown.com 
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew: 
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer