Raising Godly Boys Minute

Are you trying too hard with your son?

It’s been a long day, and you and your son are raking leaves. It’s rare that you have one-on-one time with your boy, so you feel pressure to start a conversation about something important– like grades, or friends, or God.

But fellow parent, the pressure is off. Just doing simple tasks together like yard work, building model airplanes, working on an old car, or riding bikes can be incredibly meaningful– not because of the words you say, but because of the time spent together.

Because it’s in those moments that your son not only feels your love– he realizes that you may even like him for who he is.

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Who will your son be in ten years?

In day-to-day parenting, it’s easy to get caught up in how our sons are acting today. Today, your son will throw a tantrum when you don’t let him buy a toy at the store. Today, he might not seem to pay attention when you read the Bible with him. Today, he’ll roll his eyes when you remind him to practice his violin.

But fellow parent– take heart. Your son will grow up. And when he does, he will begin to see that all along, although you took the time to guide him, you cared more about who he was than what he did. Today, ask God for the perspective you need to parent your boy for who he will be in the years to come.

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What if you let your son be the expert?

Your boy is surrounded by adults telling him what to do– buckle his seatbelt, pay attention in class, and be nice to his sister. While this guidance is necessary, it can be frustrating for him. So what if you took some time to let him teach you something?

If he’s little, let him take the lead when playing toy trucks. If he’s into video games, grab a controller and ask for a tutorial. You can even compliment him on something simple– such as the way he loads the dishwasher– and have him teach the skill to a younger sibling.

Your son will be delighted to share his expertise.

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Are you praising your boy’s effort, or his outcomes?

When Mitchell achieved something, such as winning a soccer game, or a high score on a test, his parents expressed a lot of excitement, lavishing praise on him. Inside, Mitchell began to ask himself, what if I didn’t win or get a good grade? Would my parents still love me?

What about you? Do you praise your son more for his good results than you do for a good effort or a great attitude?

Make a point to compliment him by saying things like “I noticed how you passed the ball at just the right moment.” This will help give your son confidence that he can focus on the things he can control, and surrender the results to God.

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There is a catch-22 of every boy’s life.

He craves independence and freedom. But he also still wants and needs the attention and approval of his parents. 

Be sure to set aside some time each week for intentional time with your boy.  Invite him on a hike or a fishing trip. Take him along when you need to go pick up something from work. Ask him to help you with a task, like staining the back deck.

This isn’t the time to pester your son with questions, or lecture him about behavior changes. Allow for comfortable silence, and just enjoy time together.

Your son may not seem like he appreciates it. But I guarantee you are making a memory with him– no catch-22 about it.

For learn about the 5 critical needs of boys, visit Trail Life USA or RaisingGodlyBoys.com.