Failing Motherhood

How can we create a more equitable world that supports motherhood?My guest today, Erin Spahr, is a licensed therapist, mother, feminist, podcast host, and maternal mental health advocate. She uses a feminist lens in her work with mothers in her private practice and strives to help mothers free themselves from oppressive societal expectations and find more self-confidence and self-compassion. Our conversation today spans cultural conditioning, matriscentric feminism, internalized patriarchy, and feminine rage.  We cover what feminism is not, how the patriarchy shows up on a daily basis and affects men too, and tangible next steps on how to reset and forge ahead trying to raise kind, accepting kids. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How feminism isn’t necessarily “equal to be fair”The stage of feminism that’s needed most todayWhat to do with your feminine rage in the years to comeDON'T MISS-A simple, yet radical way to fight back today // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Matricentric Feminism by Andrea RileyMom Rage: The Everyday Crisis of Modern Motherhood by Minna DubinSong: Labour by Paris Paloma // CONNECT WITH ERIN SPAHR //Instagram: @‌feminist.mom.therapistFeminist Mom Podcast: www.feministmompodcast.comPrivate Practice Website: www.erinspahrtherapy.com (available to folks in North Carolina and Maryland)Inclusive Provider Directory: www.inclusiveproviders.com I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

We all dread it - the inevitable meltdown of EPIC proportions. It’s survival mode, and no one is immune.In this episode, I share why I disagree with typical advice (and even Dr. Becky) on how to manage these meltdowns/outbursts, why it’s OK to walk away, and what to do when you can’t. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:An analogy to help illustrate your responsibilityWhy staying WITH your child might actually backfireHow to “leave” the room without physically leavingDON'T MISS:Mantras to adopt that speak to your nervous system // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

The holiday season is upon us filled with changes, anticipation, late nights, unfamiliar meals, sweets, high emotions, extra tasks and stress.Your strong-willed child will understandably have an even harder time navigating all of this unpredictability, triggers, and lack of routine.Tune in to hear my 7 steps to a more successful holiday season for the whole family! IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:What to say NO to and whyCritical mindset shifts that allow you to prevent rather than reactHow to manage the inevitable jealousy and lack of etiquette/appreciationDON'T MISS:Why there’s no right answer on whether you stick to routine or not // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Managing Candy + Holiday Sweets with Nicole Cruz, RD // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

… seems timely, right?My guest today, Dr. Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D. is the author of Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty. In her role as a researcher and professor and in direct care with parents and children for over thirty years, Klein has helped to define what every child needs to thrive, regardless of their life situations.In our episode today, Dr. Tovah breaks down the 5 critical pillars that are the roots of resilience our kids need to be okay when things are not okay. She shares strategic ways to change how we react to our kids’ negative emotions and how to feel much more equipped to know what to focus on. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...What Resilience is NOT and how our good intentions backfireThe 5 Critical “Roots of Resilience” we can instillThe recipe for our kids to love themselves for who they areDON'T MISS-A pep talk if your child is rigid and/or loses it when things don’t go their way and you fear they’re on track to be entitled, spoiled or selfish! // CONNECT WITH DR. TOVAH KLEIN //Website: TovahKlein.comUSA Today Bestselling Book, RAISING RESILIENCEInstagram- @tovahklein I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident