198. Being True to Yourself inside Tricky Relationships with KC Davis
We have a returning guest today! KC Davis is a Licensed Professional Counselor, author, speaker, the creator of the mental health platform, Struggle Care, AND the author of the brand new book, out today... Who Deserves your Love (How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End any Relationship).In our conversation, we discuss the problems within the traditional self-help industry and the parallels of mom guilt and our effect on the people and the relationships we love. The heart of our conversation centered around having clarity in our decision making using her "relationship decision tree" and finding more creative ways to sustain relationships rather than the pendulum swings between being a complete doormat and cutting off contact completely. So if you need more skill building around healthy boundary setting, self-love and what it looks like to be a "good person" in your relationships, let's be honest, this episode is for all of us.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Why shame isn't a sustainable motivatorHow to create the "Plinko board" our relationships flow within while remaining in integrityThe truth behind "if they wanted to, they would"DON'T MISS-A counterintuitive (yet MORE effective) way to spend quality time// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Special Time Cards// CONNECT WITH KC DAVIS //Who Deserves your Love (How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End any Relationship) Book — KC DavisWebsite: www.strugglecare.comInstagram: @strugglecareTikTok: @domesticblistersI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
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197. 3 of 3: Therapy, Marriage Counseling, 1:1 Coaching + Virtual Parenting Programs/Memberships
Welcome back!This is the 3rd of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we’re talking: personal therapy, marriage counseling, one-off or 1:1 parenting coaching, and virtual parenting programs / memberships.For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately, for some, the way they fall short. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:What a therapist will never tell youWhy 1:1 coaching actually takes LONGER to see resultsThe nuance missing from programs developed 50+ years agoDON'T MISS:The program that has it *all* if you are still looking for a breakthrough // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.)Nonviolent Communication (N.V.C.)Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (S.T.E.P.)Active ParentingTriple P (Positive Parenting Program)How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will TalkPositive DisciplineLove and LogicDare to Discipline // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
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196. 2 of 3: OT, PCIT, Play Therapy + Seeing a Psychologist
Welcome back!This is the 2nd of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we’re talking: Occupational Therapy, Parent Child Interaction Therapy, Child Therapy (play therapy) and seeing a Psychologist.For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately for some, the way they fall short. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:When play therapy would most benefit your childWhy PCIT is less likely to work with strong-willed kidsThe criteria often necessary in order to get a referral to a psychologistDON'T MISS:A study on childhood anxiety and what treatment style was most effective - the answer may surprise you! // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //2019 Yale Study on Combating Childhood Anxiety // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
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195. 1 of 3: Parenting Content, Books, Courses + Classes
Welcome to my VERSUS series!This is the 1st of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we’re talking: parenting content, parenting courses & books, and in-person parenting classes.For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately for some, the way they fall short. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:Why it’s extra hard to implement strategies from a bookThe topics I recommend buying courses forWho benefits most from parenting classesDON'T MISS:The Industry standard completion rate for online courses vs. mine // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
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194. Setting Boundaries without Pressure + Panic
What does it even look like to set + hold good boundaries?Boundaries can feel like an illusive mystery. Our preconceived notions of what we should be doing can create really rigid metrics for succeeding or failing, when in all actuality, there’s often no right or wrong!Today’s discussion includes validating the intention to “find the line”, why boundaries isn’t a binary but rather a spectrum, and the mindset reframes needed to be more effective and successful while still allowing for exceptions to the rule. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:How the lack of boundaries leads to entitlementWhat your true responsibility isHow much time you actually have to address the behaviorDON'T MISS:An important distinction to realize when parenting strong-willed kids // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
If you're riddled with mom guilt, your temper scares you, you're terrified you're screwing up your kids and are afraid to admit any of those things out loud....this podcast is for you. Hosted by Danielle Bettmann, parenting coach for families with 1-10-year-old strong-willed kids, Failing Motherhood is where shame-free vulnerability meets breakthroughs. Every other week is a storytelling interview about one mom's raw and honest experience of growth that leads to new perspectives and practical strategies and every other week solo episodes focus on actionable insight into parenting your deeply feeling, highly sensitive, *spicy* child. Here, we normalize the struggle, share openly about our insecurities, and rally around small wins and truths. We hope to convince you you're not alone and YOU are the parent your kids need. We hope you see yourself, hear your story, and find hope and healing. Welcome to Failing Motherhood. You belong here!
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