Today I'm sharing a live workshops where we dive deep into the very first step of Seen and Heard, the "See" part. And not just seeing the behavior or the chaos or the mess (because let's be honest, our brains love to laser focus on the problem), but actually SEEING our kids. The humans behind the big emotions. What You'll Learn: The Stop, Drop & Roll Technique - Yes, just like fire safety, but for parenting fires! When your kid's brain goes haywire and your nervous system starts screaming "EMERGENCY!", this is your go-to move. STOP: See the other person (not the problem)DROP: Don't react, observe patientlyROLL: Relax, open, listen, learnWhy Your "No" is Actually a Gift - Mind blown yet? When your child's thinking has gone offline and they're in full unreasonable mode, your gentle but firm limit becomes the focal point for all that nameless tension they've been carrying. It's like giving them permission to let it ALL out safely. The Tear Catcher Approach - I start this episode with the most beautiful poem by John Roede. It'sl about what happens when we stop trying to fix and start being present with someone's pain. Questions to Ask Yourself:Does my child need information or help?Does the task match my child's current ability today?Am I feeling drained and making everything about me?Is this behavior genuinely unreasonable, or am I just triggered?Visual Learners: If you want to see the Seen and Heard diagram I reference, head to page 155 in my book Connect Method Parenting (you can get it on Amazon). The Stop, Drop & Roll visual is on page 165. You can grab the Kindle version for like a dollar if you want to follow along!Next Steps: Practice just the "See" part this week. Before you set any limit, before you give any direction, just practice seeing your child as a human having a hard time instead of a problem to be solved. Trust me, this changes everything. xoxoAndeeps- If you could take 30 seconds to leave a review, that would mean the world to me. It's how more parents find this work and start choosing connection over correction.Join me for the No Yell Workshop, a 2-hour live class where you’ll learn the real reason parents yell and walk away with a customized plan to stop. Happening Sept 25th at noon ET (with replay included)👉 Save your spot at https://cmp.works/yell Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #185 Limits That Feel Like Love
Limits That Feel Like Love — Discipline Without the DramaDiscipline doesn’t have to be about power struggles, lectures, or bribes. In fact, when it’s done right, it actually feels like love.In this episode, I’m breaking down why setting firm limits is one of the most loving things we can do for our kids—and how to do it without all the drama. We’ll talk about:Why “no” can be a gift (yep, even when your kid is melting down)The difference between control and connectionHow to hold firm without getting pulled into the chaosPractical tools (like Stop, Drop, and Roll) you can use the next time things go sidewaysThink of this as a reframe on discipline: not punishment, not permissiveness, but loving guidance that helps our kids feel safe, seen, and supported.So if you’re tired of yelling, threats, or the endless negotiating, this one’s for you.Join me for the No Yell Workshop, a 2-hour live class where you’ll learn the real reason parents yell and walk away with a customized plan to stop. Happening Sept 25th at noon ET (with replay included)👉 Save your spot at https://cmp.works/yell Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #184 Acceptance: The Wildest Flex
What if I told you that the secret to becoming an unshakeable parent isn't getting your kids to behave better, it's learning to live in complete acceptance of however they show up?! Would you believe me???Today, we're diving deep into what might be the most radical parenting mindset shift you'll ever make. We're talking about living in acceptance instead of resistance, and why this might just be the wildest flex you can pull as a parent. What You'll Discover The Manual Revolution: Why those invisible rule books you've written for your kids (without them knowing) are keeping you stuck in emotional chaos—and how to burn them for good. Conscious vs. Unconscious Rules: The game-changing difference between setting healthy boundaries and emotionally blackmailing your children into compliance. The Want vs. Need Framework: How to make requests of your kids without tying your emotional wellbeing to whether they follow through (spoiler: this changes everything). Emotional Independence: Why taking 100% responsibility for your feelings—regardless of your child's behavior—is the ultimate power move. Key Takeaways Your kids don't have to listen to you—you have to earn that right by creating a relationship where they want to listenYou can't control anyone else, and trying to manage your child's behavior to feel better will always backfireLiving in acceptance means staying emotionally regulated no matter what shenanigans your kids are pullingConscious limit-setting comes from a place of service, not from needing your kids to behave so you feel like a good parentThe fastest way to improve your child's behavior is to stop making their behavior about you "There is nothing you have to do and no one has to do anything for you. When we think that someone else's behavior controls our emotions, we're setting ourselves up to not only feel bad, but to feel powerless." Living in acceptance isn't about becoming a pushover parent who lets their kids run wild. It's about becoming so emotionally solid and sturdy that you can set firm, loving limits without your nervous system going haywire when your kids push back. That's the wildest flex of all.Join me for the No Yell Workshop, a 2-hour live class where you’ll learn the real reason parents yell and walk away with a customized plan to stop. Happening Sept 25th at noon ET (with replay included)👉 Save your spot at https://cmp.works/yell Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #183 Let Them Not Like You: You’ll Like You More
Are you willing to allow people not to like you because you're so committed to being yourself? This episode is for all the people-pleasers who are exhausted from trying to be everyone's favorite. Andy gives you permission to let people not like you and shows you why this is the key to actually liking yourself more. What You'll Learn:Why giving people permission to dislike you is liberatingThe real reason you're desperate to be liked (it's about how you think you'll feel)How to stop being "creepy, needy, and graspy" when someone pulls awayWhy some people won't like your "flavor" and why that's normalHow to model authentic confidence for your kids (especially teenagers)Key Takeaways:"They can't like you enough to make up for you not liking yourself.""Having the courage to be disliked is empowering and makes you more confident.""If someone doesn't like you, maybe you're just not their flavor, and that's okay."Perfect For:Parents who want their teenagers to like themExhausted people-pleasers ready to break the cycleAnyone who's changed themselves to fit inParents wanting to model authentic confidenceThe Bottom Line: Being likable is overrated. Liking other people (and yourself) that's where the real magic happens. "Give people permission to not like you. They already have permission anyway, but you giving it feels so much better."Join me for the No Yell Workshop, a 2-hour live class where you’ll learn the real reason parents yell and walk away with a customized plan to stop. Happening Sept 25th at noon ET (with replay included)👉 Save your spot at https://cmp.works/yell Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #182 I Love You and There's Nothing You Can Do About It
It's 8:30 AM, a jackhammer is going FULL THROTTLE outside my window for the third hour straight, and I'm over here typing about unconditional love. But that obnoxious jackhammer just gave my entire family the perfect real-time lesson in how our thoughts create our reality. One daughter felt annoyed, my husband felt compassion (because he knows someone who got nerve damage from jackhammer work), and others were pretty neutral about the whole thing. Same situation. Totally different emotional experiences. This is unconditional love in action, people. What You'll Learn In This Episode: The Michelle Moment: Years ago, my friend Michelle asked the question that changed everything: "So when you say unconditional love, you mean love WITHOUT conditions, right?" (Thank you, Michelle, for getting clarity on that life-changing concept!) The Cinnamon Roll Effect: You know how my mom's homemade cinnamon rolls would make everyone congregate in the kitchen? That's the kind of magnetic energy we want to put out as parents - unconditional love so strong our kids can practically smell it. Why We Sabotage Our Own Happiness: We actually choose NOT to feel love sometimes. Wild, right? We decide our kids "don't deserve" our love when they're acting up. But plot twist - you're the only one who experiences your emotions. When you withhold love, you're literally punishing yourself. The Gym Analogy That'll Blow Your Mind: My daughter's friend Grace has been crushing it at the gym for a year. People literally stop her to comment on her transformation. Meanwhile, my body reflects "a mom of six who likes chocolate." Both are totally valid! But it shows we all have untapped capacity - including for unconditional love. The Behavioralism Trap: We've been taught that love is a reward and anger is a consequence. But real change happens from the inside out, and the only way to help your child's heart soften is to create an environment where their nervous system feels safe. The Truth Bomb Section: Your child's behavior cannot make you stay frustrated (even though it feels like it can)Love is available to you 24/7, regardless of what anyone else is doingYou can love someone deeply and still set firm boundariesThe emotion of love benefits YOU first - it's basically the ultimate gift you give yourselfMy Challenge For You: Pick someone in your life who's challenging to love right now. Write down all the conditions you're putting on loving them. Then ask yourself: "What would it feel like to love them no matter what, all the time?" Try it with yourself. What would unconditional love toward yourself look like? The Random Love Experiment: Next time you're out and about, try what I call "random love" (yes, I need a better name for this). Look at strangers and think "I love you" in your head. It sounds weird, feels amazing, and sends more love out into the world. What's not to love about that? "How we treat ourselves in private is how we will treat others in public."Join me for the No Yell Workshop, a 2-hour live class where you’ll learn the real reason parents yell and walk away with a customized plan to stop. Happening Sept 25th at noon ET (with replay included)👉 Save your spot at https://cmp.works/yell Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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