This week, I'm talking about one of the most important emotional skills we can build as parents. I call it Uncertainty Tolerance.After a long Thanksgiving trip, a shut-down freeway, a surprise snowstorm, and a mountain of homemade pies, I found myself thinking about how much of parenting happens in the middle. The middle is the space where we have planted seeds and are waiting for results. The space where we want to feel calm and capable, but instead find ourselves worrying, predicting disaster, or questioning everything.In this episode, I explore why our brains resist uncertainty and why we often reach for familiar failure instead of sitting with the possibility that things might turn out well. I share how this shows up with toddlers, tweens, and teens. I walk you through real examples from Target tantrums to bedtime battles to teenage eye rolls and explain how to anchor yourself so that you can stay present and connected instead of reactive.Here is what I cover in this episode:What Uncertainty Tolerance IsThe ability to remain steady in the in-between space between what you want and when the results actually show up, without collapsing or quitting or rushing into negative predictions.Why Our Brains Crave CertaintyA look at how the human brain tries to avoid the unknown by assuming the worst, and how this habit affects the way we interpret our child’s behavior.Why You Cannot Rely on Your Child for CertaintyChildren cannot regulate themselves for us. Their moods, reactions, and choices cannot be our source of stability. We learn to create certainty in ourselves.What You Can Be Certain OfYour heart is good. Your love is real. Your intention is strong. Your presence matters. Your influence is greater than you think. And you can learn anything you need to learn.How to Stay Grounded Through Meltdowns and PushbackI share specific examples from everyday parenting moments and show you how to remain steady even when you do not know what comes next.The Identity Shift That Changes EverythingThe grounding thought that can help you stay centered in any hard moment is this: "I am okay even if this does not work right away. My child is okay even if this does not work right away."This is not resignation. It is leadership. It is connection in action. It is the practice of trusting development more than daily behavior.Uncertainty is not a sign that you are doing anything wrong. It is an invitation to grow. You are becoming more emotionally grounded, more connected, and more confident with every messy moment you stay present for. You are doing beautiful work, even when you cannot see the results yet.Thank you for listening and for showing up for your children in ways that no one sees. You matter. Your work matters. And I believe in the direction you are heading.Now go connect your face-off with your kiddos, and I will see you next time.Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #204 You Can’t Teach What You Can’t Feel
In this episode, we’re talking about something that sits at the heart of connected parenting: your emotional capacity. Your ability to feel your own emotions directly shapes how you help your children navigate theirs.I’m sharing the exact moment a client realized why she kept snapping at her kids, and how one shift opened the door to calmer, more connected parenting. We’ll walk through what emotional capacity really means, why it matters so much, and how to grow it in practical, doable ways.Inside the episode, you’ll learn:Why “trying not to get triggered” doesn’t workThe difference between suppressing emotions and expanding your capacityHow your child’s big feelings bump into your limitsWhat actually creates emotional safety for kidsThe eight emotional capacities that change how you parentWhy repair is often more powerful than getting it perfectHow to hold space for your child without absorbing their stormThe tiny daily practices that build real emotional strengthYou’ll hear stories from my own life, Target meltdowns, the baby powder blizzard, hiking to Machu Picchu, as well as real client breakthroughs that show what’s possible when you learn to feel your emotions without being ruled by them.This episode will help you understand yourself more clearly, stay steadier in the hard moments, and create a home where big feelings aren’t something to fear… they’re something you can navigate with confidence.Because in parenting, you can’t teach what you can’t feel, and feeling more is what makes connection possible.Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #203 The Questions Quietly Running Your Parenting
In this episode, I’m diving into something you probably didn’t realize is shaping your parenting every single day…the quiet questions running in the background of your brain.Most parents think the problem is their kids’ behavior. But so much of what we experience as “hard parenting moments” comes from the questions we’re unconsciously asking ourselves—questions like:Why can’t they just listen?What’s wrong with me?Why is everything so hard?And here’s the kicker:Your brain will always answer the question you give it.If the question is negative, the answer will be too.Today, I’m sharing a story from New Zealand (yes, the Cathedral Caves saga!) where one powerful pause and a handful of compassionate questions completely shifted a moment of frustration between me and my daughter.You’ll learn:Why “Is this true?” might be the most liberating question you ever ask.How to catch the sneaky questions that are sabotaging your parenting.The three coaching questions I use daily to regulate, reflect, and reconnect.Why being an observer of your own mind is the actual parenting superpower.How to reframe disempowering questions into ones your brain can actually work with.Plus, I’ll give you a handful of empowering questions you can start using right away to shift your mindset, calm your nervous system, and bring more connection (and ease!) into your home.This work is life-changing. And the best part?It starts with just one better question.Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #202 Redeciding: Tiny Choices That Change Everything
In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most powerful tools you already have but probably aren’t using enough: redeciding.Redeciding is the moment you pause, question the default, and choose again—on purpose. It’s how you reinvent yourself, your parenting, your routines, and your reactions… without blowing up your whole life.I share a few recent moments that pushed me to look at my old stories (like “I’m bad at tech” or “I can’t learn new things”) and what changed when I stopped believing them. This is the work we do in CMP: noticing the patterns that keep us stuck and choosing something better.In this episode:Why you’re allowed to start over anytimeHow tiny decisions create massive reinventionThe stories we inherit—and how to let them goWhat to do when you feel stuck in old parenting habitsHow to redesign your relationship with each childWhy failures are evidence of growth, not proof of inadequacyYou’re not stuck. You’re just one redecision away from a different outcome.Let’s make the last two months of the year the best ones yet.Go connect with your kids. And let’s reinvent together.Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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Ep #201 Pivot Live: The Power of Showing Up Weekly
The people who transform their lives? They're not smarter than you. They're not more motivated. They're not reading more books or listening to more podcasts.They're the ones showing up every single week to get coached on their real life.Here's what I've discovered after seven years of teaching Connect Method Parenting: you can understand every concept I teach and still find yourself yelling when your kid won't put their shoes on Tuesday morning.There's this massive gap between knowing what to do and being able to do it in the moment when you're triggered.What closes that gap isn't more information. It's the weekly rhythm of learning something, watching it get applied to someone else's situation, then trying it in your own life. That's it. Learning, repetition, application.That's why I'm doing Pivot Live, eight weeks where we meet every Wednesday at 1 PM Eastern starting November 16th. Small group. Cameras on. You're committing to show up.You'll mess up Monday morning. You'll bring it to our call Wednesday. We'll work through it together. And Thursday you'll handle it differently.If you're new to CMP, you'll go through the Pivot week by week with the group. If you've already done it, come as a repeater and just bring whatever you're working on.The details: $199 for 8 weeks | First lesson November 16th, first call November 19th | Register at https://cmp.works/pivotIn the next episode, I'll break down the actual CMP concepts we'll be diving into.Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista
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