CHAPTER TEN
The Laws of Inner Physics
A Beautiful Mind—a movie about the famous
mathematician John Nash—begins with the
viewer not understanding that everything they’re seeing is
through the eyes of a paranoid part of the main character. It’s a
wonderful example of what people experience when protectors
thoroughly blend.
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Life Lessons and Tor-Mentors
CHAPTER NINE
Life Lessons and Tor-Mentors
We are here to learn a particular set of life
lessons, and the lesson plan is already within
us. Each of us carries legacy burdens inherited from our
families and cultures, and each of us also accrues plenty of
personal burdens along the way. So our lesson plan begins
with unloading those burdens, and that sets the stage for the
most important lesson of all—finding out who we really are.
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Healing and Transformation
CHAPTER SIX
Healing and Transformation
What do we mean by healing and
transformation in IFS? As I stated earlier, our
culture (in general) and psychotherapy (specifically) have
made the terrible mistake of assuming that parts are the way
they seem.
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Embodiment
CHAPTER ELEVEN
Embodiment
When your parts start to trust your Self, they
open more space for you to be in your body.
When that’s the case, you feel sensations and emotions more
and, consequently, you become increasingly interested in
keeping your body grounded and healthy. With this enhanced
sensitivity to your body’s feedback comes increased
knowledge about what foods or activities are beneficial and
which can be damaging. This leads to corresponding changes
in your behavior.
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Closing Thoughts
Closing Thoughts
Your inner world is real. Parts are not imaginary
products or symbols of your psyche; nor are they
simply metaphors of deeper meaning. They are inner beings
who exist in inner families or societies, and what happens in
those inner realms makes a big difference in how you feel and
live your life.
Introduction
As a psychotherapist, I’ve worked with many
people who came to me shortly after their lives
had crashed. Everything was going great until the sudden heart
attack, divorce, or death of a child. If not for that life-jarring
event, they would never have thought to see a therapist,
because they felt successful.
After the event they can’t find the same drive or
determination. Their former goals of having big houses or
reputations have lost their meaning. They feel at sea and
vulnerable in a way that’s unfamiliar and scary.
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