Comparison is hardwired into our brains...not as a flaw, but as an evolutionary survival strategy. While this instinct once helped our ancestors find belonging and detect threats, today it often manifests as scrolling through Instagram and measuring ourselves against impossible standards.Recently I found myself questioning the competitive framework that pits people against each other. This moment sparked a deeper exploration of how comparison shapes our lives, often without our awareness.From early childhood, we're conditioned to compare ourselves to others through educational systems that rank, grade, and percentile us against our peers. This transforms our natural scanning instinct from a tool for belonging into a source of anxiety and inadequacy. But what if we could redirect comparison inward instead of outward? When we compare ourselves to our own timeline...who we were yesterday and who we're becoming tomorrow. This is how we create a powerful framework for authentic growth. This shift transforms comparison from a source of jealousy and inadequacy into a catalyst for development aligned with our unique values and path.Whether in fitness challenges, creative pursuits, or spiritual development, the goal isn't to outdo others but to outgrow yesterday's version of yourself. This is the comparison that leads to authentic excellence and true fulfillment. How might your relationship with yourself transform if you redirected your comparison instinct toward your own growth journey?=======================================================================================Wisdom Wednesdays is your chance to apply what you learn in this podcast. It is my weekly coaching program that will create real time change based on everything you learn here. https://www.islamiclifecoachschool.com/wisdom-wednesdays
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Your Vulnerability Is An Asset
Reaching my 250th podcast episode feels monumental, and I couldn't think of a more fitting topic to mark this milestone than vulnerability...specifically, how to wield it as the powerful asset it truly is.Vulnerability... being emotionally transparent can create deeper connections and resolve conflicts more effectively, not all vulnerability leads to healing. The missing piece in most conversations about vulnerability is discernment, knowing when, where, and with whom to share your innermost feelings.Think of vulnerability as valuable currency. When invested wisely with people who demonstrate emotional maturity, trustworthiness, and consistency, it yields rich dividends of intimacy and understanding. When handed carelessly to those who haven't earned it or lack the capacity to hold it, it becomes costly, eroding the very relationships it should strengthen.The most transformative approach is becoming your own emotional container first. Before expecting others to hold your feelings with care, learn to sit with your own truths without shame or urgency. This internal safety allows you to share from a place of wholeness rather than seeking validation through exposure.Proximity does not equal permission. Just because someone is close to you doesn't mean they deserve access to your vulnerable self. Vulnerability also is not the sole measure of closeness in a relationship.Listen to see how it transforms your relationships when shared selectively with those worthy of this gift.=======================================================================================Wisdom Wednesdays is your chance to apply what you learn in this podcast. It is my weekly coaching program that will create real time change based on everything you learn here. https://www.islamiclifecoachschool.com/wisdom-wednesdays
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Train For The Reality You Want
In this transformative episode, we explore the powerful practice of "future self-training" - showing up as what you want, not what you currently have.When you make dua with conviction and then live as if it's already unfolding, you're practicing the highest form of trust in Allah's wisdom and timing. The gap between asking and embodying is precisely where many prayers feel unanswered – not because Allah hasn't accepted them, but because we haven't fully received them in our behavior.Learn practical ways to embody your future self in every area of life: dressing with dignity regardless of your tax bracket, speaking with the authority of someone who knows her worth, and parenting from wisdom rather than reactivity. Discover how to train your nervous system to hold new beliefs safely, creating a bridge between your current identity and the woman you're becoming. When you genuinely embody the version of yourself who already has what you've prayed for, your brain's reticular activating system begins working for you, highlighting resources and opportunities that were previously invisible. The path to your goals stops feeling overwhelming and starts becoming inevitable.Ready to reclaim your role as an active participant in your prayers? Start living like the woman Allah has already answered your duas to become. Your future self is waiting for you to step into her shoes today.=======================================================================================Wisdom Wednesdays is your chance to apply what you learn in this podcast. It is my weekly coaching program that will create real time change based on everything you learn here. https://www.islamiclifecoachschool.com/wisdom-wednesdays
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How to Reclaim a healthy ego
What if the key to spiritual growth isn't destroying your ego, but reclaiming it? Drawing from Islamic wisdom and modern psychology, this episode explores how microscopic shifts in daily habits can transform your relationship with yourself and others.We often swing between two extremes...completely erasing ourselves or defensively overcompensating. Neither serves us well. Through practical examples, I share how small acts of self-honoring can initiate profound healing: sitting down to eat when hungry rather than waiting for everyone else, leaving draining group conversations without drama, acknowledging exhaustion instead of pushing through another to-do list, or simply waiting to respond to messages until you're truly ready.These seemingly minor moments signal to your nervous system that you matter, that your needs are valid. When practiced consistently, they create a foundation for balanced self-expression that feels neither selfish nor self-sacrificing. You'll discover why suppressed desires eventually emerge as irritability or emotional shutdown, how constant overgiving trains others to bypass your boundaries, and why deferring to others' judgments weakens your ability to trust yourself.Ready to reclaim your healthy ego through practice and guidance? Join me in my coaching programs where we develop these skills through real-life application, helping you recognize yourself again while deepening your spiritual connection.=======================================================================================Wisdom Wednesdays is your chance to apply what you learn in this podcast. It is my weekly coaching program that will create real time change based on everything you learn here. https://www.islamiclifecoachschool.com/wisdom-wednesdays
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Ego as a Tool: Reclaiming Your Sense of Self
Ego reclamation might sound contradictory to Islamic spiritual teachings, yet for Muslim women, it represents a critical step toward mental health and authentic faith. This episode challenges conventional wisdom about ego work by introducing a revolutionary concept: ego as a tool that can be picked up when needed and put down when not.Drawing from Islamic spiritual tradition, we explore the three states of nafs (ego) - the commanding self that urges toward sin, the reproaching self that swings between mistakes and regret, and the tranquil self in a state of peace. What if developing a healthy ego doesn't make you a selfish Muslim woman, but instead anchors you more firmly in your faith?The dominant spiritual language around ego - crushing it, controlling it, suppressing it - was primarily designed for men's spiritual struggles. For women already socialized to erase themselves, this approach causes harm rather than healing. When a Muslim woman struggles with voicelessness, people-pleasing, or hyper-responsibility, the solution isn't further ego diminishment but thoughtful reclamation. This episode distinguishes between true humility and ongoing humiliation, clarifying that submission in Islam means erasing yourself before Allah alone - not before other people.Discover how to discern when to strengthen your ego (setting boundaries, speaking up) versus when to dissolve it (in prayer, deep connection). A woman grounded in her values through a healthy ego becomes difficult to mistreat - not because she's confrontational, but because she's anchored in a dignity that recognizes manipulation and shame for what they are. Join us as we explore this path to mental health that honors both your personhood and your faith commitment.=======================================================================================Wisdom Wednesdays is your chance to apply what you learn in this podcast. It is my weekly coaching program that will create real time change based on everything you learn here. https://www.islamiclifecoachschool.com/wisdom-wednesdays
I have created the Islamic Life Coach School, and this podcast in efforts for you to achieve any and ALL of your goals through high level of self awareness, mind management and emotional intelligence. It is my mission to provide you with the tools that you can use to make your life unrecognizably successful.How do I define success? Success is what you want it to be. These tools can be applied to create success in life, religion, relationships, career etc. YOU define your success and I will teach you the tool to get it.
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