I Guess I’m an Adult Now...

Text us and share your adulting stories!Dating at 30 as a Christian comes with its own set of challenges, especially when abstinence, desire, and faith collide.In this episode, I open up about breaking a three-year abstinence pact, the lessons I learned from dating again, and why knowing your values matters more than chemistry. This is an honest, vulnerable conversation about sexuality, faith, alignment, and learning to trust yourself again.CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS0:00 Dating Again at 30 & Breaking Abstinence1:00 Why I’m Sharing This Story2:00 My Dating History & Patterns4:30 2020, Self-Worth & Slowing Down7:00 My Spiritual Shift in 20228:30 Lust, Sexuality & Being Honest as a Woman11:30 Why Abstinence Wasn’t Just Religious14:00 Sex, Biology & Healthy Sexual Mindsets16:00 Dating Again as a Christian Woman17:30 Hormones, Ovulation & Real Struggles18:30 Meeting Him & Immediate Chemistry20:00 Values vs. Boundaries Explained21:30 Why Misalignment Always Shows Up23:00 Shame, Grace & Running Back to God25:00 Lesson #1: Your Values Are Everything27:30 Actions vs. Words29:00 Communication & Emotional Maturity30:30 Standards, Solitude & Singleness31:30 Final Reflections on Dating at 30Watch Video PodcastsYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuruYou can also listen on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948 Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e Catch up on:The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3cYou might like ⬇️An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLccThere's more for Season 2⬇️Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_dShould you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5-Let's Be Friends!Instagram➟ https://www.instagram.com/chiziduruhttps://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpodTiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduruPinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=enThe DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/Business Inquiries? Music Submissions? [email protected] (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY) Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time.Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuruFollow 'Chizi Duru'Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

Text us and share your adulting stories!My African dad is BACK — and this time we’re talking dating, relationships, marriage, culture, red flags, green flags, and everything in between. 😂We unpack the conversations immigrant kids never have with their parents, including why he never asked about boyfriends, his evolving views on interracial dating, and what he believes women (and men!) should look for in a serious partner.This episode is honest, funny, and surprisingly vulnerable. Get ready to take notes.CHAPTERS1:00 Growing Up African & Avoiding Dating Conversations5:10 Cultural Expectations Around Marriage8:00 Would Dad Accept a Non-Nigerian Partner?12:50 Black Women & Marriage Statistics16:00 Are Men Falling Behind? Masculinity Today18:20 Successful Women & Men’s Insecurity21:00 What Women Need to Know About Men23:45 Dad’s Advice to Successful Women26:30 Do Men Need to Work Harder?27:30 When I Started Dating (Dad Is SHOCKED)29:50 My Dating Experiences Now32:00 The “Pick You Up In My Heart” Disaster35:30 Standards, Initiative & Red Flags37:00 What My Dad Thinks I Should Work On39:30 Understanding My Anger & Communication Style41:00 Should Women Date Multiple Men?43:00 Green Flags in a Serious Partner45:30 Financial Support & Intentionality47:40 Men: How to Pursue a Successful Woman48:40 Women: Watch His Actions, Not His Words49:40 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore51:00 What Men Should Look for in Women52:20 How Fast Should Marriage Be Discussed?54:00 Love Bombing & Moving Too Fast55:10 Why Your Gut Matters in DatingYou can also listen on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948 Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e Catch up on:The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3cYou might like ⬇️An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLccThere's more for Season 2⬇️Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_dShould you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5-Let's Be Friends!Instagram➟ https://www.instagram.com/chiziduruhttps://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpodTiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduruPinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=enThe DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/Business Inquiries? Music Submissions? [email protected] (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY)Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time.Watch Video PodcastsYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuruFollow 'Chizi Duru'Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/ Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time.Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuruFollow 'Chizi Duru'Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

Text us and share your adulting stories!In this episode, I open up about my mental health journey! Starting antidepressants as a Christian, unlearning the stigma around medication, and finally feeling normal for the first time in my adult life.Chapters0:30 — Early Signs of Depression & Anxiety6:20 — Finding My First Therapist8:30 — Understanding Anxiety and Compulsive Habits10:00 — Learning to Name My Emotions11:20 — 7 Years of Therapy and Still Learning13:00 — When Faith Meets Mental Health14:00 — “I’m on Medication Now, and I Feel Great”16:00 — Sobriety, Isolation, and Facing Myself18:00 — Taking the Depression & Anxiety Assessment22:00 — The Stigma Around Medication23:30 — “I Didn’t Realize I Had Bias Against Meds”31:00 — Can Christians Take Medication?34:00 — Choosing Yourself Over People’s Opinions36:00 — Why Faith and Meds Can Coexist38:00 — A Year Later: Peace, Clarity, and Balance39:20 — “This Is My First Normal Year”You can also listen on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948 Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e Catch up on:The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3cYou might like ⬇️An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLccThere's more for Season 2⬇️Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_dShould you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5-Let's Be Friends!Instagram➟ https://www.instagram.com/chiziduruhttps://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpodTiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduruPinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=enThe DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/Business Inquiries? Music Submissions? [email protected] (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY) Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time.Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuruFollow 'Chizi Duru'Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

Text us and share your adulting stories!Life doesn’t always go as planned, and sometimes, the hardest moments end up teaching you the most.In this episode, my dad and I talk about what it really means to fail, start over, and find peace when life throws you curveballs. From losing loved ones and dealing with financial setbacks to learning how to pivot and keep going, he opens up about lessons that shaped his life and changed the way I see mine.It’s honest, emotional, and a reminder that failure isn’t the end. It’s just part of growing up.Chapters3:00 – Losing a Parent & Dealing with Grief6:30 – Building “Committee of Friends”10:30 – Preparing for Life’s Inevitable Moments15:00 – Financial Struggles & Learning to Save18:30 – Losing a Job & Finding Hope21:00 – Comparison, Social Media & Self-Worth25:00 – Knowing When It’s Time to Pivot28:00 – Choosing Between Law School & America33:00 – The Curveballs That Lead to Purpose37:00 – Faith, Family, and Hard Decisions41:00 – Lessons on Growth & ResilienceYou can also listen on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948 Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e Catch up on:The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3cYou might like ⬇️An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLccThere's more⬇️I’m Tired of Pretending Money Isn’t a Big Deal - Ep 02https://youtu.be/87F1-0fT7hwShould I Freeze My Eggs? Do I Even Want Kids? - Ep 03https://youtu.be/RS0I-5fq6ZsLet's Be Friends!Instagram➟ https://www.instagram.com/chiziduruhttps://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpodTiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduruPinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=enThe DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/Business Inquiries? Music Submissions? [email protected] (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY) Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time.Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuruFollow 'Chizi Duru'Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

Text us and share your adulting stories!Three years ago, I had a life-changing encounter with Jesus Christ. Since then, I’ve been on a journey of faith — full of lessons, doubts, and hard truths.In this episode, we're discussing whether I'm still a Christian, navigating religion as an Adult, and what faith really means to me.If you’ve ever questioned your beliefs, struggled with organized religion, or tried to reconcile faith with adulthood, this one’s for you.Chapters0:00 – Intro 1:00 – How I Found Christ3:40 – The Good Side of Christianity6:30 – Miracles & Spiritual Gifts11:00 – False Teachings12:00 – Why Some Christians Struggle14:00 – Falling Into False Teachings21:00 – Prophecy, Manipulation & Money26:30 – When the Church Feels Like Witchcraft33:00 – Faith vs. Fear38:00 – Relearning Simplicity40:00 – Am I Still a Christian?You can also listen on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948 Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e Catch up on:The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01 https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3cYou might like ⬇️An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLccLet's Be Friends!Instagram➟ https://www.instagram.com/chiziduruhttps://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpodTiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduruPinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=enThe DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/Business Inquiries? Music Submissions? [email protected] (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY) Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time.Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuruFollow 'Chizi Duru'Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/