Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, th...
218: Mind Traps: How Your Thoughts Are Sabotaging Your Parenting (And How to Fix It)
Have you ever thought, Why can’t my child just listen? or I must be failing as a parent? If so, you’re not alone—but here’s the truth: Your thoughts are shaping your parenting experience. In this episode, Lisa dives into how fear-based thinking keeps us stuck in frustration, how our kids absorb our energy, and how to reframe negative thoughts into ones that serve both you and your child. Learn how to shift from reacting to responding, creating more calm, connection, and cooperation in your home.What You'll Learn:How negative thoughts shape your emotions, actions, and parenting patterns.Why your brain is wired for negativity—and how to rewire it for more constructive thinking.The ‘What Else Might Be True?’ technique to shift your mindset in difficult moments.How your child picks up on your internal fears and reacts accordingly.The three-step process to notice, reframe, and replace negative parenting thoughts.Simple, real-world exercises to help you shift your parenting mindset—starting today.
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217: Perfect Imperfection - Why Your Parenting Mistakes Aren't Failures
Do you ever feel like one bad parenting moment wipes out all your good ones? Like every time you lose your cool, you’re failing your kids? You’re not alone. In this episode, Lisa Smith dives into the truth about peaceful parenting—it’s not about being perfect, it’s about being real. She breaks down why yelling doesn’t make you a bad parent, how to shift from shame to self-compassion, and why repairing after mistakes is the most powerful lesson you can teach your kids. This is the episode every parent needs to hear—because parenting isn’t about perfection, it’s about connection.What You'll Learn:Why perfect parenting is a myth—and why imperfection is actually better for your child’s growth.How your nervous system affects your reactions—and why understanding this helps you stay calm.The real reason parents yell (hint: it’s not because you’re failing!)How to repair after you lose your cool—step-by-step, without guilt or shame.The power of modeling imperfection for your kids—so they learn how to handle mistakes with grace.A simple mindset shift to break the cycle of self-criticism and embrace self-compassion in parenting.
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216: Breaking Free From the 'Good Kid, Bad Kid' Trap
In this powerful episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith shares an inspiring story from one of her Hive community members, Sandy, who bravely reflected on her old parenting rules and the profound impact they had on her relationship with her daughter. Through honest self-awareness and a shift from rigid control to nurturing connection, Sandy transformed her family dynamic. Lisa walks us through how we, too, can reframe household rules to build trust, invite cooperation, and break intergenerational cycles.What You'll Learn:The Impact of Labels: How “good girl” and “bad girl” labels create lasting identities and affect your child’s self-perception.From Control to Connection: Learn practical strategies to shift your parenting from managing behavior to guiding growth.Reframing Rules: How to transform household rules from rigid demands to invitations for cooperation and respect.The Power of Grace: Why giving yourself grace is crucial as you break old patterns and learn new parenting tools.Awareness as a Superpower: The magic that happens when you recognize your own inherited parenting patterns and make intentional changes.Actionable Homework: A guided exercise to assess your own parenting rules, identify hidden messages, and reframe them to build connection.
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215: Why Your Child Gets Defensive—And How to Change It
Have you ever caught your child lying, sneaking treats, or getting defensive over a simple question? You’re not alone! In this episode, Lisa dives into why kids become defensive, how their nervous system reacts to perceived threats, and what parents can do to break the cycle of power struggles. Instead of creating distance with frustration and criticism, Lisa shares practical strategies to build trust, encourage honesty, and foster open communication—without losing your authority.What You'll Learn:Why kids become defensive and how their nervous system reacts under pressure.How your emotional regulation as a parent sets the tone for honesty and connection.Key phrases that help kids feel safe enough to open up.The difference between reactive parenting vs. responding with curiosity.How to address tough situations (lying, sneaking, arguing) without triggering more defensiveness.A powerful mindset shift that will transform the way your kids respond to you.
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214: Is It Dangerous or Just Inconvenient? The Parenting Question That Changes Everything
Do you find yourself saying “no” all day long? Before Lisa discovered peaceful parenting, she was caught in the same cycle—until she came across one simple question that changed everything: Is it dangerous, or just inconvenient? In this episode, Lisa shares real-life examples of how shifting from automatic "no’s" to thoughtful responses can help you build trust, foster cooperation, and create more opportunities for connection with your kids. Get ready to rethink your approach and start saying “yes” in a way that works for both you and your child!What You'll Learn:The difference between saying “no” for safety versus saying it out of convenience.How pausing before reacting can transform your relationship with your kids.Practical ways to set boundaries without shutting down your child’s requests.Why thoughtful “yeses” help build responsibility and cooperation.How to shift from reacting with control to responding with connection.A simple two-part homework exercise to start changing your parenting approach today.
Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/
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