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On Episode 34 of 1-800 CHATLINE… we're starting a conversation that is deeply personal, confronting, and one we never expected to have.
Welcome to Our Boyfriend, Our Abuser - a special series exploring domestic violence, abusive relationships, relationship red flags and the warning signs we wish we'd recognised sooner.
Amy Dickinson is joined by Taylor Davies, a woman she never knew existed until Taylor reached out after watching Amy's TikTok series, My Boyfriend, My Abuser.
The plot twist? Amy and Taylor dated the same man at different times, without knowing each other's stories.
After connecting and discovering striking similarities, they're sharing their experiences to raise awareness, unpack the warning signs and help others better understand abusive relationships.
💌 HOW WE FOUND EACH OTHER
How Taylor discovered Amy's TikTok series

The DM that connected two separate stories

The similarities they uncovered when they compared experiences

Why they've decided to share their stories

💘 THE HONEYMOON PHASE
Abusive relationships don't always begin with obvious red flags. Sometimes, they start with intense chemistry, affection and the feeling that you've finally met someone who truly understands you.
❤️‍🔥 LOVE BOMBING, MIRRORING & EARLY RED FLAGS
Amy and Taylor unpack:
Love bombing: Intense affection, attention and promises that may form part of a pattern of manipulation or control.

Mirroring: Reflecting someone's interests, values or personality to create a powerful feeling of compatibility.

Boundary testing: Pushing limits, disregarding preferences or making someone feel guilty for saying no.

Affection and shared interests aren't automatically red flags - it's the broader pattern of behaviour that matters.
🎙️ IN THIS EPISODE:
The story behind Our Boyfriend, Our Abuser

Who Amy and Taylor were before the relationship

What the honeymoon phase felt like

Love bombing, mirroring and boundary testing

Early relationship warning signs

Why recognising abuse isn't always straightforward

Turning individual experiences into a conversation about domestic violence awareness

🖤 IF YOU'RE HERE FOR:
Domestic violence awareness and survivor stories

Abusive relationships and relationship red flags

Love bombing and emotional manipulation

Understanding unhealthy relationship dynamics

Honest conversations about healing and recovery

Finding language for experiences you've struggled to explain

…this series is for you.
🫶 AUSTRALIAN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SUPPORT
If anything in this episode resonates with you, you don't have to navigate it alone.
🇦🇺 1800RESPECT: Call 1800 737 732 or text 0458 737 732, 24/7. Online support: https://www.1800respect.org.au
📍 Queensland DVConnect: Womensline - 1800 811 811 (24/7). Mensline - 1800 600 636.
🚨 In immediate danger, call 000.
You don't have to be certain that what you're experiencing is abuse to reach out for support.
🎧 1-800 CHATLINE - where we fuel your intrusive thoughts.
This time, we're also making space for the conversations that matter.
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Episode 33 – LOVE SPELLS, FESTIVAL CHAOS & DATING DJS | 1-800 CHAT LINE

On Episode 33 of 1-800 CHAT LINE, Amy Dickinson and Sasha Heath are officially entering their witchcraft era — because apparently swiping on dating apps wasn’t getting the job done.

And first things first… we have a NEW CATCHPHRASE. 🔮

☎️ 1-800 CHATLINE, WHERE WE FUEL YOUR INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS.

We kick things off with a formal apology before getting straight into this week’s chaos.

🏕️ Sasha’s Solo Festival Adventure
Sasha went to a camping festival ALONE with nothing but a duffel bag and vibes.

Naturally, she made friends, found her people and somehow managed to get herself into VIP.

Because if there’s one thing Sasha is going to do, it’s network her way into a better experience.

💘 Amy’s THREE-STEP Dating Program
Amy reveals her three-step approach to dating — because apparently we’ve reached the point where dating requires a formal strategic framework.

Consider this your unofficial guide to navigating modern dating.

🔮 WE’VE STOPPED SWIPING
Dating apps? Deleted.

Logic? Gone.

We’ve officially moved on to love spells, Post-it notes and witchcraft.

Yes, really.

Amy and Sasha unpack the increasingly unhinged lengths we’ll go to when we want the universe to deliver us a man.

🎧 THE PROS & CONS OF DATING DJs
Are DJs actually good boyfriend material?

We break down the perks, the red flags, the lifestyle, the late nights, the attention from other women and everything else that comes with dating someone who works in nightlife.

Because sometimes you want a boyfriend.

Sometimes you want a boyfriend who plays at 2am.

Sometimes you need to know what you’re signing up for.

🎧 IN THIS EPISODE:
• The brand-new 1-800 Chatline catchphrase
• Our formal apology
• Sasha’s solo camping festival adventure
• Going to a festival alone
• Making friends at festivals
• How Sasha got into VIP
• Amy’s three-step dating program
• Dating advice and modern dating
• Love spells and manifestation
• Post-it note witchcraft
• Dating apps vs. witchcraft
• Dating DJs
• The pros and cons of dating DJs
• Nightlife, relationships & dating
• Chaotic female conversations
• Dating stories, red flags & intrusive thoughts

If you’re here for dating advice, dating stories, relationship chaos, dating apps, love spells, manifestation, female friendship, festival stories, DJs, nightlife, modern dating and two women making questionable romantic decisions… this episode is for you.

🎧 1-800 CHAT LINE — WHERE WE FUEL YOUR INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS.

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On Episode 32 of 1-800 CHAT LINE, Amy Dickinson and Sasha Heath are bringing you some of their scariest dating stories yet — plus one absolutely unhinged life update.

🚨 Amy’s Friday Night Horror Story
Amy reveals how she was bashed in Brisbane’s Fortitude Valley by three women on Friday night. A completely unprovoked attack, three women, one very chaotic story… and obviously, we had to unpack it.

💍 The Girl They Date Before They Get Married
We discuss the universal experience of being that girl — the one a man dates before he suddenly settles down and marries someone else.

Except Sasha has a very specific grievance: she’s more devastated that her ex’s new fiancée has stopped watching her Instagram Stories since they got engaged.

Honestly? Understandable.

🚩 Our TWO Scariest Dating Stories
This week gets DARK.

Amy tells the story of the man who love-bombed her, swept her off to a remote farmhouse with his friends, and then verbally abused her — ending in a genuinely terrifying situation.

Sasha reveals how she accidentally dated a married Albanian man… and received a “hey girly” message from his wife WHILE SHE WAS STILL IN BED WITH HIM.

The wife then threatened to deport Sasha and claimed her family had connections to the Albanian mafia.

So, naturally, we discuss what could possibly be worse than finding out your date has a wife.

🚩 How to Spot Dating Red Flags Before It’s Too Late
From love-bombing and isolation to controlling behaviour and stories that simply don’t add up, Amy and Sasha break down the red flags they wish they’d recognised sooner.

📅 The August Dating Theory
And finally, we unpack the August dating theory — because apparently the month you meet someone might tell us something about where your relationship is headed.

🎧 IN THIS EPISODE:
• Amy’s Brisbane Fortitude Valley attack story
• Being the girl men date before they get married
• Sasha’s ex getting engaged
• The devastating loss of an Instagram Story viewer
• Amy’s love-bombing horror story
• The remote farmhouse dating nightmare
• Sasha accidentally dating a married Albanian man
• The “hey girly” wife message
• Albanian mafia threats
• How to identify dating red flags
• Love-bombing vs genuine interest
• Scary dating stories
• The August dating theory
• Dating, relationships, toxic men & female friendship

If you’re here for dating horror stories, relationship red flags, love bombing, toxic relationships, dating advice, chaotic female conversations, ex-boyfriends, Instagram drama and stories that sound too insane to be true… this episode is for you.

🎧 1-800 CHAT LINE — your unofficial hotline for dating disasters, female friendship, pop culture and the stories you probably shouldn’t tell anyone else.

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On Episode 31 of 1-800 CHAT LINE… we begin with not one, not two, but three formal apologies.

Potentially three and a half.

We then dive into a weekend recap, including Amy’s 33rd birthday celebrations, proof that she still hasn’t grown up, and confirmation that she remains very much single and deep in the trenches.

There was also an unexpected run-in with someone from Amy’s past.

No, you won’t guess who.

👕 The Indie Clinton Conversation

This week, Amy and Sasha unpack the t-shirt that had the media talking, the renewed discussion around Ben Azar’s unfair dismissal case, and the way Indie Clinton continues to be portrayed in mainstream media.

Why does the conversation around female influencers always seem to become something much bigger?

💄 The Death of the Clean Girl Aesthetic

Are we witnessing the end of the clean girl era?

Amy and Sasha discuss why the internet seems to be moving away from minimalist perfection and why chaotic, messy, party-girl energy is making a comeback.

🚩 Men Who Were Cheated On Once and Never Recovered

You know the type.

A man gets cheated on at 15 years old and somehow it’s still being used as evidence in every relationship conversation 20 years later.

Amy and Sasha discuss why some people use past relationship trauma as an explanation for their behaviour without ever actually doing anything to heal from it.

📚 Boy Sober?

This week’s obsession is It’s Not Love, Actually by Dee Selman.

After listening to the audiobook, Amy and Sasha discuss the concept of being “boy sober,” why everyone seems to be talking about it right now, and whether removing men from the equation might actually be the key to inner peace.

Will they be committing to a boy sober era?

The answer may disappoint you.

🎧 In this episode:
• Three (and a half) formal apologies
• Amy’s 33rd birthday recap
• An unexpected run-in from the past
• Indie Clinton, media narratives and influencer scrutiny
• The death of the clean girl aesthetic
• Why party girls are officially back
• Men who never emotionally recovered from being cheated on once
• Boy sober discourse
• Our latest audiobook obsession
• Questionable life choices and unsolicited opinions

If you’re here for:
• pop culture analysis
• internet discourse
• dating trauma
• friendship chaos
• women overthinking everything
• men under-processing everything

…this episode is for you.

🎧 1-800 CHAT LINE - the hotline for people who should probably be journaling instead.

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On Episode 30 of 1-800 CHAT LINE, Amy is issuing a formal apology.

Just one week after dramatically announcing she was leaving the dating market forever, she’s back.

After spending a deeply committed two weeks in what was clearly going to be a lifelong relationship, Amy has now completed the five stages of grief following a devastating breakup and officially re-entered the dating trenches.

The dating series is back.

Unfortunately.

Joining Amy this week is Sasha Heath as they unpack the absolute state of modern dating, why everyone is exhausted by dating apps, and how we’ve somehow reached a point where every man is an “avoidant” instead of simply admitting he’s an eff-boy.

💔 Amy’s Breakup Era
A relationship began.
A relationship ended.
A lesson was learned.

Amy shares what happened, why she’s back on the apps, and why dating in your 30s somehow feels both more self-aware and more chaotic than ever.

📱 Dating App Burnout Is Real
Why does modern dating feel like a second full-time job?

Amy and Sasha discuss:
• endless swiping
• dating fatigue
• situationship culture
• the emotional exhaustion of constantly starting over
• why everyone seems to be looking for a connection but nobody wants to commit

🧠 Has Therapy Speak Ruined Accountability?
A controversial conversation about:
• attachment styles
• avoidant men
• therapy language on TikTok
• weaponised self-awareness
• why some people are using psychology terms to avoid taking responsibility for their behaviour

Because sometimes he’s not an avoidant.

Sometimes he’s just not that interested.

😵‍💫 The Loneliness Epidemic & Comparison Culture
Why are so many people feeling behind in life?

Amy and Sasha unpack:
• social media comparison
• feeling late to milestones
• being single in your 30s
• friendship, relationships and societal pressure
• why everyone’s highlight reel is making us question our own timeline

Spoiler alert: the timeline might actually be complete BS.

❤️ Healing, Therapy & Growing Up
The girls also open up about past emotionally abusive relationships, difficult experiences with therapy, and how getting older has made them more confident, self-aware and far less willing to tolerate nonsense.

🎧 In this episode:
• Amy’s breakup and return to the dating series
• Dating app burnout
• Situationship culture
• Avoidant attachment vs bad behaviour
• Therapy speak and accountability
• The loneliness epidemic
• Comparison culture and social media
• Being single in your 30s
• Emotionally abusive relationships
• Self-growth, healing and getting older

If you’re interested in:
• modern dating
• dating apps
• relationships
• attachment styles
• situationships
• therapy culture
• loneliness
• friendship
• personal growth
• navigating your 30s

…this episode is for you.

🎧 1-800 CHAT LINE — still emotionally unstable, but increasingly self-aware.

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