Parenting Teens: Advice Redefined for Today's Complex World

• ~135~WTF "This is 61"

  1. Celebrating Turning 61 Personal reflection on age – “I’m 61,” disbelief and acceptance. Shift from “lonely” to “alone, not lonely” – embracing solo moments. Birthday rituals – dinner for one, old‑fashioned cocktail, writing a poem. Family presence – spending much of the day with her mother’s procedure and caring for her. 2. Mind‑set Shifts & Reframing Reframing frustration Seeing irritation as a learning cue. “If I don’t learn, the lesson will return.” Embracing the “dark” Accepting resistance, anger, disappointment as teachers. Alternative to aging Dad’s mantra: “What’s the alternative?” → Choosing to own 61 instead of fearing another option. 3. Life After Retirement Freedom & Energy Better health, more stamina, thriving mission‑driven life. New professional ventures Podcast hosting, consulting, advocacy, co‑authoring a book. Time management No longer feeling “scattered”; having the time to pursue passions. 4. The Podcast Journey Purpose & Joy Connecting with global listeners, cultivating friendships. Format & Content Solo episodes, mid‑week interviews, sharing personal growth stories. Audience Takeaway Encouraging listeners to reframe, celebrate, and pursue self‑designated happiness. 5. Self‑Discovery & Self‑Love Enjoying One’s Own Company Solo movies, dinner, no compromise on choices. Body & Confidence No longer worrying about thighs or food choices; embracing a minimalist confidence. Shedding Unnecessary “Masks” Letting go of habits/identities that never truly defined her. 6. Burning Down & Rebuilding Metaphor of “burning everything down” Drastic reset: clearing outwhat no longer serves. Preserving valuable remnants Retaining wisdom, experience, and useful “remnants” from the past. Application to Relationships & Situations Identifying misaligned people, values, or commitments; deciding to “burn” them away. 7. Values, Alignment & Relationships Core Values Identification Spirituality, family, faith, etc., as non‑negotiable anchors. Evaluating Compatibility Spotting misaligned partners, friends, or family members early. Actions Over Words “Show me, not just tell me”; believing first impressions (Oprah/Maya reference). 8. Gratitude & Minimalism Gratitude Practice Focusing on what she has, celebrating daily moments. Minimalist Attitude Reducing excess, keeping only what truly adds value. Joy Through Simplicity Finding more happiness in fewer, intentional possessions and experiences. 9. Advice for Others Approaching Milestones Perspective on Future Birthdays Embrace excitement, design the day exactly as you want. Use of Dad’s Question Re‑ask “What’s the alternative?” to dismantle fear of aging. Gift of Self‑Designed Celebration The birthday is a personal gift from self to self. 10. Closing & Call‑to‑Action Final Blessing “Have a beautiful Friday…WTF.” Invitation to Return Promise of next episode, gratitude for listening. Connect with Cheryl! The Good Divorce Show Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hIILoayZV2oQu5zEzJdcP?si=wl8O0S9YSCCwkUSJQAYcrQ Let’s Chat https://tidycal.com/cherylpankhurst/consultation-chat Sleep support DIRECT LINK TO COACHING WITH CHERYL email : [email protected] Website cherylpankhurst.com SOCIALS: linkedin.com/in/l. R.cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855 https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/ https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst PODCAST- “PARENTING TEENS ADVICE REDEFINED FOR TODAY’S WORLD THE PODCAST https://open.spotify.com/show/4QwFMJMDDSEXJb451pCHO9?si=9c1a298387c84e13 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk&si=7p-e4UlU2rsG3j_t Optin-podcast subscriber https://www.cherylpankhurst.com/teen-minds-redefined-podcast Join our Podcast Private Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/httpswww.facebook.comgroups1258426648646523 What’s it like to work with me! MINI-COURSE

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• ~134~ "Protecting Teens Online: Practical Privacy Hacks for Parents" with Chris Parker

  Find Chris Parker here; http://cgparker.com http://easyprey.com http://privacycrisis.com 📌 Topic 🧩 Core Insight 🔧 Quick Action The biggest unseen privacy risk Teens think the curated feeds they see are “real life.” This fuels unrealistic self‑image and makes them vulnerable to emotional manipulation. Do a “Reality‑Check” session—show the behind‑the‑scenes of a polished post (lights, retakes, filters). When to talk about privacy Start the conversation before the crisis, not after. Kids are exposed to sophisticated scams at younger ages than we think. Schedule a monthly “Digital‑Safety Check‑In” (15 min) with your teen. Age and device guidelines Ideal: 21 y/o for full autonomy, but realistic milestones: • Grade 9 – texting only • Age 16 – limited social‑media with parental controls Set up built‑in parental controls, enable two‑factor authentication (2FA) on every account. Neuro‑divergent teens Literal thinking can be a super‑power, but scammers will exploit that straightforwardness. Teach a simple “Ask‑Why” script: “Who are they? Why do they want this? What’s the outcome?” Digital footprint & data mining Every search, click, and ad view feeds a profile that predicts behavior (e.g., Target’s pregnancy model). Use incognito/Brave for casual browsing, and clear cookies regularly. Credit‑freeze for kids A child’s SSN can be used to open accounts that sit dormant for years. Freeze your child’s credit now—unfreeze only when they need a legitimate account. Protect the email—“the key to the kingdom” A compromised email = full‑house takeover (bank, socials, password resets). Use a dedicated, high‑security email for all family accounts; enable 2FA + a password manager. Screen‑time & doom‑scrolling It’s not about “how many minutes” but about intentional use. Set a timer, then log the purpose (e.g., “Check basketball scores”). If you can’t name a purpose, close the app. Connect with Cheryl! The Cleansing Within Program https://www.practicewithpresence.com/cleansing-within/?sa=sa0019992619598254bda4daae3980777062778b19 The Good Divorce Show Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hIILoayZV2oQu5zEzJdcP?si=wl8O0S9YSCCwkUSJQAYcrQ Let’s Chat https://tidycal.com/cherylpankhurst/consultation-chat Sleep support DIRECT LINK TO COACHING WITH CHERYL email : [email protected] Website cherylpankhurst.com SOCIALS: linkedin.com/in/l. R.cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855 https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/ https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst PODCAST- “PARENTING TEENS ADVICE REDEFINED FOR TODAY’S WORLD THE PODCAST https://open.spotify.com/show/4QwFMJMDDSEXJb451pCHO9?si=9c1a298387c84e13 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk&si=7p-e4UlU2rsG3j_t Optin-podcast subscriber https://www.cherylpankhurst.com/teen-minds-redefined-podcast Join our Podcast Private Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/httpswww.facebook.comgroups1258426648646523 What’s it like to work with me! MINI-COURSE

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• ~133~WTF "It's NEVER Too Late"

  Key Takeaways You’re not starting from zero – every new chapter begins with the wisdom and experience you’ve already earned. “It’s never too late” applies to all ages and any area of life: parenting, health, career, spirituality, learning, and personal growth. Small, time‑boxed actions (1 minute, 30 seconds) are the most effective way to build new habits—movement, meditation, learning, or reaching out. Own your mistakes and reset boundaries openly; saying “I made a mistake” is more powerful than “Because I said so.” Shift from reaction to intention – replace yelling with a pause (deep breaths, water, step away) and model calm communication for your teen. Movement = permission, not punishment – start with a minute of activity and let curiosity drive you to do more. Redefine meditation: any focused activity (knitting, walking, reading) can be mindfulness. Apologies must be backed by behavior change; genuine accountability fuels real transformation. Self‑compassion & body gratitude influence how your kids view themselves—model grace, not criticism. Your evolution becomes a permission slip for others; they learn by watching you, not just by listening. Intentional resetting (as many times as needed) is the path to continual reinvention—not perfection. These takeaways reinforce the episode’s core message: you can always start again, guided by the insight you’ve already gained. Connect with Cheryl! The Cleansing Within Program https://www.practicewithpresence.com/cleansing-within/?sa=sa0019992619598254bda4daae3980777062778b19 The Good Divorce Show Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hIILoayZV2oQu5zEzJdcP?si=wl8O0S9YSCCwkUSJQAYcrQ Let’s Chat https://tidycal.com/cherylpankhurst/consultation-chat Sleep support DIRECT LINK TO COACHING WITH CHERYL email : [email protected] Website cherylpankhurst.com SOCIALS: linkedin.com/in/l. R.cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855 https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/ https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst PODCAST- “PARENTING TEENS ADVICE REDEFINED FOR TODAY’S WORLD THE PODCAST https://open.spotify.com/show/4QwFMJMDDSEXJb451pCHO9?si=9c1a298387c84e13 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk&si=7p-e4UlU2rsG3j_t Optin-podcast subscriber https://www.cherylpankhurst.com/teen-minds-redefined-podcast Join our Podcast Private Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/httpswww.facebook.comgroups1258426648646523 What’s it like to work with me! MINI-COURSE

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• ~132~ “Breaking the Education ‘Compliance’ Trap – Real Strategies for Parents” Will Dobud & Nevin Harper

  http://www.kidsthesedaysbook.com 🛠️ Quick Tips for Parents (Take‑away Action Items) Start the “Youth‑Engagement Conversation” – Ask your teen: “What part of today felt most alive? What felt like a waste of time?” Swap “Compliance” for “Co‑Creation” – Re‑frame rules as agreements: “Let’s decide together how we’ll handle homework this week.” DIY Advocacy – Identify one school policy (e.g., cell‑phone usage) you can discuss with a teacher. Bring a teen‑suggested solution. Leverage Strengths, Not Labels – If your teen mentions a diagnosis, ask: “What does this tell us about how you learn best?” Micro‑Disruptions in the Classroom – Encourage teachers (or your own home‑learning) to let students choose one project topic each month. today we’re stepping directly into a conversation that so many parents whisper about but rarely name out loud: the school system. The one we grew up in. The one our kids are sitting in right now. And the one that — for too many teens — simply doesn’t match who they are, how they learn, or what they need to thrive. For decades, we’ve been taught not to question it. But when a system is outdated, when it’s built for a world and a learner that no longer exist… we have to talk about it. And today, we are. I’m joined by Nevin Harper and Will Dobud, authors of the incredible book Kids These Days — a book that doesn’t just diagnose what’s going on with youth, but shines a bright light on the systems shaping them. Together, we’re going to unpack what’s broken, what’s possible, and how every one of us — parents, educators, advocates — can begin disrupting the system in small, meaningful ways. Connect with Cheryl! The Cleansing Within Program https://www.practicewithpresence.com/cleansing-within/?sa=sa0019992619598254bda4daae3980777062778b19 The Good Divorce Show Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hIILoayZV2oQu5zEzJdcP?si=wl8O0S9YSCCwkUSJQAYcrQ Let’s Chat https://tidycal.com/cherylpankhurst/consultation-chat Sleep support DIRECT LINK TO COACHING WITH CHERYL email : [email protected] Website cherylpankhurst.com SOCIALS: linkedin.com/in/l. R.cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855 https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/ https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst PODCAST- “PARENTING TEENS ADVICE REDEFINED FOR TODAY’S WORLD THE PODCAST https://open.spotify.com/show/4QwFMJMDDSEXJb451pCHO9?si=9c1a298387c84e13 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk&si=7p-e4UlU2rsG3j_t Optin-podcast subscriber https://www.cherylpankhurst.com/teen-minds-redefined-podcast Join our Podcast Private Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/httpswww.facebook.comgroups1258426648646523 What’s it like to work with me! MINI-COURSE

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• ~131~"Reframing 'Tantrums' as Survival Strategies: Understanding Dysregulation"

  Key Takeaways Behaviour is a message—not a mistake. Teens use their bodies when words fail. Dysregulation = Survival Mode. “Can’t regulate” = the brain’s fight‑or‑flight alarm; it isn’t a conscious choice. A simple rating system (1‑5) gives teens a predictable way to signal distress before crisis. Empathy beats judgment. Whenever you see a teen dysregulate, ask: “What is my child trying to tell me?” You don’t have to navigate this alone. Coaching, community, and clear communication tools are available. Connect with Cheryl! The Cleansing Within Program https://www.practicewithpresence.com/cleansing-within/?sa=sa0019992619598254bda4daae3980777062778b19 The Good Divorce Show Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hIILoayZV2oQu5zEzJdcP?si=wl8O0S9YSCCwkUSJQAYcrQ Let’s Chat https://tidycal.com/cherylpankhurst/consultation-chat Sleep support DIRECT LINK TO COACHING WITH CHERYL email : [email protected] Website cherylpankhurst.com SOCIALS: linkedin.com/in/l. R.cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855 https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/ https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst PODCAST- “PARENTING TEENS ADVICE REDEFINED FOR TODAY’S WORLD THE PODCAST https://open.spotify.com/show/4QwFMJMDDSEXJb451pCHO9?si=9c1a298387c84e13 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk&si=7p-e4UlU2rsG3j_t Optin-podcast subscriber https://www.cherylpankhurst.com/teen-minds-redefined-podcast Join our Podcast Private Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/httpswww.facebook.comgroups1258426648646523 What’s it like to work with me! MINI-COURSE

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