Parenting Teens: Advice Redefined for Today's Complex World

• ~132~ “Breaking the Education ‘Compliance’ Trap – Real Strategies for Parents” Will Dobud & Nevin Harper

  http://www.kidsthesedaysbook.com 🛠️ Quick Tips for Parents (Take‑away Action Items) Start the “Youth‑Engagement Conversation” – Ask your teen: “What part of today felt most alive? What felt like a waste of time?” Swap “Compliance” for “Co‑Creation” – Re‑frame rules as agreements: “Let’s decide together how we’ll handle homework this week.” DIY Advocacy – Identify one school policy (e.g., cell‑phone usage) you can discuss with a teacher. Bring a teen‑suggested solution. Leverage Strengths, Not Labels – If your teen mentions a diagnosis, ask: “What does this tell us about how you learn best?” Micro‑Disruptions in the Classroom – Encourage teachers (or your own home‑learning) to let students choose one project topic each month. today we’re stepping directly into a conversation that so many parents whisper about but rarely name out loud: the school system. The one we grew up in. The one our kids are sitting in right now. And the one that — for too many teens — simply doesn’t match who they are, how they learn, or what they need to thrive. For decades, we’ve been taught not to question it. But when a system is outdated, when it’s built for a world and a learner that no longer exist… we have to talk about it. And today, we are. I’m joined by Nevin Harper and Will Dobud, authors of the incredible book Kids These Days — a book that doesn’t just diagnose what’s going on with youth, but shines a bright light on the systems shaping them. Together, we’re going to unpack what’s broken, what’s possible, and how every one of us — parents, educators, advocates — can begin disrupting the system in small, meaningful ways. Connect with Cheryl! The Cleansing Within Program https://www.practicewithpresence.com/cleansing-within/?sa=sa0019992619598254bda4daae3980777062778b19 The Good Divorce Show Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hIILoayZV2oQu5zEzJdcP?si=wl8O0S9YSCCwkUSJQAYcrQ Let’s Chat https://tidycal.com/cherylpankhurst/consultation-chat Sleep support DIRECT LINK TO COACHING WITH CHERYL email : [email protected] Website cherylpankhurst.com SOCIALS: linkedin.com/in/l. R.cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855 https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/ https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst PODCAST- “PARENTING TEENS ADVICE REDEFINED FOR TODAY’S WORLD THE PODCAST https://open.spotify.com/show/4QwFMJMDDSEXJb451pCHO9?si=9c1a298387c84e13 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk&si=7p-e4UlU2rsG3j_t Optin-podcast subscriber https://www.cherylpankhurst.com/teen-minds-redefined-podcast Join our Podcast Private Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/httpswww.facebook.comgroups1258426648646523 What’s it like to work with me! MINI-COURSE

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• ~131~"Reframing 'Tantrums' as Survival Strategies: Understanding Dysregulation"

  Key Takeaways Behaviour is a message—not a mistake. Teens use their bodies when words fail. Dysregulation = Survival Mode. “Can’t regulate” = the brain’s fight‑or‑flight alarm; it isn’t a conscious choice. A simple rating system (1‑5) gives teens a predictable way to signal distress before crisis. Empathy beats judgment. Whenever you see a teen dysregulate, ask: “What is my child trying to tell me?” You don’t have to navigate this alone. Coaching, community, and clear communication tools are available. Connect with Cheryl! The Cleansing Within Program https://www.practicewithpresence.com/cleansing-within/?sa=sa0019992619598254bda4daae3980777062778b19 The Good Divorce Show Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hIILoayZV2oQu5zEzJdcP?si=wl8O0S9YSCCwkUSJQAYcrQ Let’s Chat https://tidycal.com/cherylpankhurst/consultation-chat Sleep support DIRECT LINK TO COACHING WITH CHERYL email : [email protected] Website cherylpankhurst.com SOCIALS: linkedin.com/in/l. R.cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855 https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/ https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst PODCAST- “PARENTING TEENS ADVICE REDEFINED FOR TODAY’S WORLD THE PODCAST https://open.spotify.com/show/4QwFMJMDDSEXJb451pCHO9?si=9c1a298387c84e13 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk&si=7p-e4UlU2rsG3j_t Optin-podcast subscriber https://www.cherylpankhurst.com/teen-minds-redefined-podcast Join our Podcast Private Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/httpswww.facebook.comgroups1258426648646523 What’s it like to work with me! MINI-COURSE

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• ~130~“Enough Is Enough: How to Stop Abandoning Yourself and Start Speaking Up”

  #SelfAdvocacy, #Advocacy, #PersonalBoundaries, #TruthTelling Key Takeaways Advocacy ≠ Aggression – It’s about clear, honest communication that protects your own well‑being. The “Peace‑Keeper” Trap – Most parents default to “keeping the peace” for everyone else, forgetting they have the same right to be heard. Spot the Gap – Social media shows the end result, not the messy process. Recognize that the journey (including the storm) is where real growth happens. Your Body Gives You the Answer – When you set a boundary and feel calm rather than guilty, your nervous system is confirming you did the right thing. Low‑Volume Courage – You don’t need to raise your voice; a single, firm sentence can be enough: “I won’t participate in this dynamic anymore.” “That’s not respectful to me.” “I need this to change.” Modeling for Teens – Kids learn boundary‑setting by watching you. When you stand up for yourself, you teach them to do the same. “Storm‑Love” Exercise – Close eyes, hand on heart, say: “I love this storm. I love this arc. I love it all.” Use this to stay present and turn turbulence into growth. The Calm Compass – If after a conversation you feel quiet confidence, not shame, you’ve aligned with your true self. Community Call‑to‑Action 1️⃣ Share this episode with a parent who needs a confidence boost. 2️⃣ Post your own boundary‑setting moment on Instagram or TikTok using #WTFParenting and tag @CherylPankhurst. 3️⃣ Leave a Voice‑Mail or comment with your story—Cheryl will reply personally and may feature it in a future episode. Connect with Cheryl! The Cleansing Within Program https://www.practicewithpresence.com/cleansing-within/?sa=sa0019992619598254bda4daae3980777062778b19 The Good Divorce Show Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2hIILoayZV2oQu5zEzJdcP?si=wl8O0S9YSCCwkUSJQAYcrQ Let’s Chat https://tidycal.com/cherylpankhurst/consultation-chat Sleep support DIRECT LINK TO COACHING WITH CHERYL email : [email protected] Website cherylpankhurst.com SOCIALS: linkedin.com/in/l. R.cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855 https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/ https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst PODCAST- “PARENTING TEENS ADVICE REDEFINED FOR TODAY’S WORLD THE PODCAST https://open.spotify.com/show/4QwFMJMDDSEXJb451pCHO9?si=9c1a298387c84e13 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk&si=7p-e4UlU2rsG3j_t Optin-podcast subscriber https://www.cherylpankhurst.com/teen-minds-redefined-podcast Join our Podcast Private Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/httpswww.facebook.comgroups1258426648646523 What’s it like to work with me! MINI-COURSE

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• ~129 "Transforming Trauma: Healing Birth Experiences with Sharon King"

  Key Takeaways: Understanding Birth Trauma: Sharon King specializes in helping individuals heal from pre and perinatal birth trauma, offering insights into its impact on both mother and baby. The Power of Energy Psychology: Through techniques like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and tapping, Sharon helps individuals regulate emotions and release trauma stored in the body. Rewriting Birth Stories: Sharon explains how she guides individuals, like Caroline, through the process of revisiting and transforming past birth experiences, allowing them to rewrite their stories and heal emotional wounds. Connecting with Younger Selves: By tapping into their younger selves' experiences, individuals can uncover deep-seated traumas and address them, fostering healing and emotional growth. Addressing Ancestral Trauma: Sharon discusses how trauma can extend beyond individual experiences, reaching into ancestral histories, and how techniques like tapping can help clear these inherited patterns. The Impact of Separation: Sharon highlights the emotional impact of separation during birth experiences, drawing from Caroline's personal story of being separated from her mother due to jaundice, and how this separation trauma can affect individuals later in life. Natural Birth Triumphs: Sharon King shares empowering stories of women who experienced natural childbirth, demonstrating the incredible capacity of the human body and mind to navigate the birthing process without excessive medical intervention. Healing Trauma: Through techniques like Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) tapping and revisiting birth experiences, individuals can address and heal deep-seated traumas that may have originated from prenatal or birth experiences, even if those memories are not consciously accessible. Parenting Insights: Parents can gain valuable insights into their children's behaviors and struggles by examining their own birth experiences and addressing any unresolved issues. Understanding the impact of early experiences can help parents create stronger bonds with their children and navigate challenging adolescent years more effectively. Bonding and Relationships: The first moments after birth and during adolescence are crucial bonding periods. Strong emotional connections established during these times can influence relationships and choices later in life. Parents play a vital role in nurturing these bonds and providing a safe haven for their children as they navigate through various life stages. Apex Effect: The transformative power of addressing past traumas is highlighted through the "Apex Effect," where individuals often forget they ever had a particular problem after successfully resolving it through therapy or healing techniques. Resources for Healing: Sharon King provides resources through her website, magicalnewbeginnings.com, where individuals can access information, contact her directly, and explore opportunities for healing and personal growth. Continued Learning: Sharon King's journey includes plans for podcasting, demonstrating her commitment to ongoing learning, sharing knowledge, and supporting individuals on their healing journeys. Podcasts can serve as valuable platforms for reaching a wider audience and fostering community engagement. #TraumaHealing #BirthExperiences #EnergyPsychology #EFT #TappingTechnique #EmotionalWellness #PreandPerinatalTrauma #AncestralHealing #HolisticHealing #ConsciousConception #PregnancyJourney #ParentingInsights #TeenMindset #TeenParenting #SelfHealingJourney Websites: www.magicalnewbeginnings.com & www.healyourbirthbook.com Email: [email protected] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/magicalnewbeginnings YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sharonking5861 https://www.facebook.com/sharon.king.796

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• #128 "Creating Safe Spaces: Talking to Teens About Suicide and Mental Health" with Iuri Melo

  🇺🇸 United States **Dial or text **988 — the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline for anyone experiencing emotional distress, suicidal thoughts, or mental health crises. It routes you to trained counselors 24/7. connectsafely.org+15en.wikipedia.org+15youthhubs.ca+15wired.com Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1‑800‑4ACHILD (1‑800‑422‑4453) — for children and teens in abusive situations. verywellmind.com+2stopitnow.org+2apa.org+2 Boys Town National Hotline: 1‑800‑448‑3000 — general crisis support for kids, teens, and parents. stopitnow.org National Runaway Safeline: 1‑800‑RUNAWAY — for runaways or youth considering running away. cmha.ca+15stopitnow.org+15youthhubs.ca+15 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741 — free, confidential text support available in both the U.S. and Canada. wolfsonchildrens.com+7en.wikipedia.org+7apa.org+7 🇨🇦 Canada **Dial or text **9‑8‑8 — Canada’s new Nationwide Suicide Crisis Helpline, launched November 30, 2023. It’s available 24/7 in English and French and is operated by CAMH and Kids Help Phone for all Canadians. kidshelpphone.ca+7en.wikipedia.org+7canada.ca+7 Kids Help Phone (for ages 5–29): Call 1‑800‑668‑6868 Text CONNECT to 686868 Online chat via their website — available 24/7 in English and French Iuri Melo is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 20 years of experience and the proud father of five. He’s the co-founder of SchoolPulse, a nationwide student support service that delivers positivity, optimism, and growth mindset tools to students, parents, and faculty via text and email. After several teen suicides in his community, Iuri co-created SchoolPulse in 2017 to proactively support student well-being. He’s also the author of Mind Over Grey Matter and the teen best-seller Know Thy Selfie, and the developer of “Adventure Based Therapy.” With over 300 schools in 25+ states, Iuri’s mission to “bless the human family” is inspiring students every day through kindness, psychology, and powerful weekly videos. Important Links email: [email protected] ; Schoolpulse.org ; Text me: 435-319-0347 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iuritiagomelo Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/iuri-melo-1b41482/ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/iuritmelo/ Introduction: Cheryl introduces Iuri Melo, highlighting his work with School Pulse and the importance of proactive mental wellness support for teens. Understanding Trauma: Iuri discusses the lasting impact of trauma and the importance of addressing it with care and clarity. Teen Suicide Prevention: The conversation focuses on recognizing warning signs, approaching difficult conversations, and the role of parents and educators in providing support. Call to Action: If you're a parent of a teenager, take the first step towards creating a stronger, more meaningful relationship with your child. Visit Insight to Impact Coaching and Consulting to learn how you can reconnect with your true self and lead with purpose. Schedule a no-pressure call today to explore how Cheryl can support you on this transformative journey. Hashtags: #ParentingTeens #TeenMentalHealth #SuicidePrevention Creating Safe Spaces: Iuri emphasizes the importance of creating a safe and open environment for teens to express their feelings. The Power of Connection: The episode highlights the significance of positive relationships and the impact they have on mental health. Call to Action: Cheryl encourages parents to prioritize relationship-building with their teens and offers resources for those in need of immediate support. Resources: Links to School Pulse, crisis support hotlines, and Cheryl's coaching services are provided in the show notes. Connect with Cheryl! Let’s Chat https://tidycal.com/cherylpankhurst/15-minute-meeting DIRECT LINK TO COACHING WITH CHERYL email : [email protected] Website cherylpankhurst.com SOCIALS: linkedin.com/in/l. R.cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855 https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/ https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst PODCAST- “PARENTING TEENS ADVICE REDEFINED FOR TODAY’S WORLD THE PODCAST https://open.spotify.com/show/4QwFMJMDDSEXJb451pCHO9?si=9c1a298387c84e13 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk&si=7p-e4UlU2rsG3j_t Optin-podcast subscriber https://www.cherylpankhurst.com/teen-minds-redefined-podcast Join our Podcast Private Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/httpswww.facebook.comgroups1258426648646523 Get a taster of what’s it like to work with me! MINI-COURSE

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